Foreword Living on Automatic presents a unique and creative way to understand your- self and your relationships with others. This is new thinking, refreshingly presented in everyday language so that we can learn clearly how we were formed and who we are. Much of our happiness, and our unhappiness, has its center in relation- ships. It is who we are, and our understanding of others, that defines and controls those relationships. Dr. Adams has been my colleague in our parallel pathways of training and as therapists in adult, adolescent, and child psychiatry. I am grateful for her eight years of dedication and hard work in bringing to fruition Dr. Martin’s new concepts, as expressed in this book. This is a lovely trib- ute to the importance of mentorship. Dr. Martin and Dr. Adams are both psychiatrists and well-seasoned observers of the human condition. Their insights are drawn from a com- bined 80 years of work with hundreds of patients. What we find in their book is truly a new approach to understanding how personality and rela- tionship difficulties cause problems for us. I regret I never knew Dr. Martin. He had a reputation as a creative thinker and skilled practitioner. We can be grateful for his wisdom in thinking outside conventional psychiatric thought. It was this tension that steered his splendid mind down a new path of human understanding. I have known Dr. Adams most of my life, personally and profession- ally. She has written about the suffering and treatment of children. She is highly respected for her clinical talents and her incisive understanding of how personalities impact our lives, particularly the central role of person- ality in our close relationships. The beauty of this book is that it goes far deeper than self-help. We are asked to think, which is a breath of fresh air, because it helps us dig deeper