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INTRODUCTION 3 and shared with me their experiences and emotions regarding this topic. Th eir names were also changed to protect their privacy. You might feel that the chapter headings are random, and that there are many more topics within the fi eld of technology and dating. You would be justifi ed! It is simply not feasible to consider all the related facets of this constantly evolving topic. It is equally diffi cult to keep up with all the new products and applications that are developed. Th e goal here was not just to illuminate the issues, but to provide realistic expectations and share reasonable tools you can use on a daily basis to improve your life and relationships. It is likely that at least one chapter in this book will make you stop and think, “Wow, this resembles or parallels my life.” If that happens, then I have reached my objective. I am not just writing as a therapist, but as a 27-year-old female who has personally experienced the eff ect that technology has on relationships. It can create tension and anxiety when partners are more in touch with their devices than each other. Having shared experiences and stimulating conversations are necessary for relationship growth. Th e possibility to connect with one another is so much more feasible when you sometimes remove those external distrac- tions. Th e act of removing technology from a room symbolizes your level of interest and consideration for the person or people around you. Alternatively, staring at your phone and/or computer sends a clear message of your priorities. However, I am also aware that technology is necessary and can even have positive and benefi cial impacts on relationships. Sharing hilarious YouTube videos, sexting, and using teledildonics are just some of the incredible ways to incorporate technology into a relationship. It is also important to remember the reality that we live in a world where work does not necessarily end when you leave the offi ce. Th e competitive nature of modern society instills a need to be more connected than your coworker in order to achieve ultimate success. Th erefore, when you step into your home, it is possible your work follows you and supersedes your relationship. Th is might be your reality. If this is the case, diff erent types of modifi cations can accom- plish similar goals dependent on your life situation. Th is does not mean that the change is any less signifi cant. It is important to note the case studies and therapeutic techniques intro- duced in this book can benefi t all types of relationships, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Although the techniques off ered for treatment are based on the specifi c case scenarios, they can easily be generalized. My hope is that they can be applicable in some way for your own relationship or dating experience. Additionally, I attempt to explore the biology and psychology behind some of the actions taken by both men and women. I want to be clear that both genders can ghost, get distracted by technology, cheat, and have phone